What is a Twelve Step Group? Twelve Step groups are entirely composed of recovering addicts; no professional leadership is allowed. The oldest and best known of all the twelve step groups is Alcoholics Anonymous AA. Membership Recovering addicts with long periods of sobriety lead the groups, but any drug or alcohol dependent person with a sincere desire to recover is welcome to attend.
I have known a number of people left behind by the suicide of people close to them, however.
The one question everyone has asked without exception, that they ache to have answered more than any other, is simply, why? Why did their friend, child, parent, spouse, or sibling take their own life? Even when a note explaining the reasons is found, lingering questions usually remain: If some in-between state existed, some other alternative to death, I suspect many suicidal people would take it.
In general, people try to kill themselves for six reasons: This is without question the most common reason people commit suicide. Severe depression is always accompanied by a pervasive sense of suffering as well as the belief that escape from it is hopeless.
The pain of existence often becomes too much for severely depressed people to bear. Because depression, as we all know, is almost always treatable, we should all seek to recognize its presence in our close friends and loved ones. Often people suffer with it silently, planning suicide without anyone ever knowing.
Despite making both parties uncomfortable, inquiring directly about suicidal thoughts in my experience almost always yields a honest response. Malevolent inner voices often command self-destruction for unintelligible reasons. Psychosis is much harder to mask than depression — and arguably even more tragic.
Schizophrenics are just as likely to talk freely about the voices commanding them to kill themselves as not, and also, in my experience, give honest answers about thoughts of suicide when asked directly. Psychosis, too, is treatable and usually must be for a schizophrenic to be able to function at all.
Untreated or poorly treated psychosis almost always requires hospital admission to a locked ward until the voices lose their commanding power. Often related to drugs and alcohol, some people become maudlin and impulsively attempt to end their own lives. Once sobered and calmed, these people usually feel emphatically ashamed.
They may try it again the very next time they become drunk or high, or never again in their lifetime.
Hospital admission is, therefore, not usually indicated. Substance abuse and the underlying reasons for it are generally a greater concern in these people and should be addressed as aggressively as possible. The prototypical example of this is a young teenage girl suffering genuine angst because of a relationship, either with a friend, boyfriend, or parent who swallows a bottle of Tylenol—not realizing that in high enough doses Tylenol causes irreversible liver damage.
They have a philosophical desire to die. The decision to commit suicide for some is based on a reasoned decision often motivated by the presence of a painful terminal illness from which little to no hope of reprieve exists.
They often look at their choice to commit suicide as a way to shorten a dying that will happen regardless. In my personal view, if such people are evaluated by a qualified professional who can reliably exclude the other possibilities for why suicide is desired, these people should be allowed to die at their own hands.
This is a recent, tragic phenomenon in which typically young people flirt with oxygen deprivation for the high it brings and simply go too far. The only defense against this, it seems to me, is education.
The wounds suicide leaves in the lives of those left behind by it are often deep and long lasting.Stacey had posted this story as comment on this post, but I felt it should be a post of it’s own so I’m reposting her story here: Hi, I found this web site today.
I came in tears when I. The Small Book: A Revolutionary Alternative for Overcoming Alcohol and Drug Dependence [Jack Trimpey, Peter Ganim] on ashio-midori.com *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. Offering an alternative to twelve-step programs, a supportive guide explains how to identify the impulse to use intoxicants.
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Alcohol-Related Student Deaths-By Date (Most recent first)Presented below is an unfortunate tabulation of deaths where alcohol use by college students was the cause or a contributing factor, all occurring since Copious alcohol consumption, to the point of binge drinking, has become an unfortunate characteristic of the event, so much so that police departments around the country have had to ready themselves for a rash of ill-advised and alcohol-fueled behaviors that put people at risk.
That first night in the Dolphin I parked between a bar and a feed store on the Willamette River in West Portland and had a minor panic attack.